#TuesdayThought sometimes people ask if coming out made me lose my faith temporarily.
My answer--No. When I came out I became aware that the container called "straight" was too small for who I am/how I love.
Likewise, my the container in my life called "faith" was too small
Losing things: faith, identity, etc... can be painful.
Surprisingly enough, expansion/growth can be a painful too. A quote that really sustained me is below
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ― Anaïs Nin
A lot of folks can admire the beauty of a flower in full bloom, but they may not appreciate the growth journey that flower took from seed, to a plant, to ripe bud, to a flower in full bloom that risked opening itself up for all the world to see it's full colors.
There's a quote often attributed to the Talmud "every blade of grass has an angel whispering for it to grow, grow." I love the gentle and sweet poetry of that quote, but even more I love the realism of its context which actually reveals growth is hard coffeeshoprabbi.com/2015/03/24/maz…
What I take from all this, by way of inspiration, is that some of the most stunningly beautiful things in our lives come to us through pain, growth, challenging circumstances--life changing events that forever alter you and force you to divide your life into "before" and "after"
The way that my faith expanded in the coming out process was that while I identify as a Presbyterian Practitioner. I gravitate to deep wisdom wherever it can be found. And that means that I can authentically commune with people across diverse theological spectrums/denominations.
That gift gives me an incredible capacity for peacemaking work across the aisle on all manner of issues. That gift more often than not turns me into a disruptor because I will challenge & frustrate the boundaries/limits of any particular label that someone tries to throw onto me
The only way to know me is via relationship with me. Some ppl are not complex. They're a 30sec read (and I don't mean that disparagingly). That's a gift. Others of us are a 20min convo. The barrier to entry in knowing us will cost you in terms of time/energy/emotional resources
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#MondayMotivation Money for Millennials. Dispelling Myths. Home Ownership Edition.
I know a lot of millennials. I work with a lot of millennials. And something I hear from a lot of you is that you'd prefer home ownership to investing because your parents lost a lot $$ in 2008.
But what you probably didn't know is that the house you personally live in is not an investment. If you live in a house for 30 yrs (which few people do) and pay 30 year mortgage and do normal but required maintenance--you will spend more on the house than it's worth over time.
People can get lucky in 3-5 yr cycles if they bought low and sell when the market is high like right now and where you don't have major repairs. literally everything in a house needs replaced over a 30yr cycle. Paint, walls, electrical, roofs, flooring, window, appliances etc.
1. Europe has a personal tax rate of 50%+ and I haven't looked at economic data to see if we could extrapolate it to the USA, but I certainly wld support it if it would shore up the social safety net
2. Europeans live a v. diff, > frugal and IMO preferred lifestyle to America
Key diff--more investment in public infrastructure and less need/dependency and therefore expense associated w/ private automobile ownership. For many ppl in the USA being car free+car insurance free, wld shake loose $400-$700 a month