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Nairobi living- A friend's friend( a babe) invites me for a drink a few weeks back and later tell me she'll be bringing friends. I go to meet her and get there before her and order my beers and chill
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They come a bit later and it's her and two other babes and they start whispering among themselves, call the waiter and make their order. The waiter goes round kidogo then comes back to me and whispers in my ear and asks me whether I'll cover their bills because they said I would
Babes had ordered a bottle of JD and a few other things and had decided that I was going to pay and didn't tell me. I laughed and told them to get the drinks themselves since I was only drinking beer. Lol they huddled and whispered to each other again and came up with
alternative drinks that they could get that I would pay for. Lol I was invited for a drink and they were still trying to strong arm me telling me to be a gentlemanπA year ago I would have but now, nope.
You should see how annoyed they were odering Snapp and paying for it themselves. They were visibly annoyed and dissapointed and still later on tried to shame me into paying for their drinksπ I danced, finsihed my two beers and went home before anything else happenedπ
Lessons:
1. Black Kings, don't be shamed into buying things for babes in the name of "being a man" or "being a gentleman"
2. Waiters are your best friends. They undertstand the struggle. I tipped this good brother forsaving me just under 10K in argumentsπ
1. Black Kings, don't be shamed into buying things for babes in the name of "being a man" or "being a gentleman"
2. Waiters are your best friends. They undertstand the struggle. I tipped this good brother forsaving me just under 10K in argumentsπ
They were going to have me pay for their bill after inviting me for a drinkπ
I shared this with a friend and it's so funny that he went through almost the same thing except they had racked up a bill of 50K!
I shared this with a friend and it's so funny that he went through almost the same thing except they had racked up a bill of 50K!
He paid for his bill and left while they were in the bathroom and he had texts showing them abusing him for leaving. They had ordered these drinks for themselves before he came and they were inviting him so he could payπππ
Lol my emancipation from viewing my masculinity based on what I can afford means that I can't be shamed into paying bills I wasn't planning on.
There's another messier story but that's for another day.
Wanaume, kataa kutumiwa!π
There's another messier story but that's for another day.
Wanaume, kataa kutumiwa!π
Lol so another time a journo invites me for an interview. She asks me where was convenient, I tell her a place and I get there and she's forgotten about the meeting. Lol. We push it to the next day. She shows up late the next day and I order my drink
She orders hers and food and asks me whether I want food but since I was broke, one drink was enough for me. After the interview, the bill comes and I ask the waitress to bring two separate bills. You could see the shock on her face
She asks why I did that. I tell her that it makes paying separately for bills easier. She tells me that she didn't carry moneyπ She invited me for an interview, ordered food and drinks even I didn't order and she didn't carry money
I tell her to figure it out and she gets on her phone, browsing IG telling me to pay for the bill since I was the manπ I was bewildered! She told me to pay and she wasn't giong to pay. Her actual words "Me, spend money on a man?"
This is a professional jounro telling me that this interview was on me and she wasn't paying for the bill because she's a woman. "No other man has ever asked me to pay the bill. This is a first" She was shaming me for not paying he food bill for an interview she called me for
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Lol a lot of guys are in my DM telling me about similar experiencesπππ
If this happens to you, pay your bill and go, Black Kings. It's plain disreprectful for someone to even pull that on you!
If this happens to you, pay your bill and go, Black Kings. It's plain disreprectful for someone to even pull that on you!
In both situations when I left, the ladies were annoyed at meπ Mimi sina aibu. I don't order extraordinary things I can't afford on a daily and blame someone else for not paying. Babes take advantage of men's ego/ soceity's view on money and masculinity. Kataa hiyo!
Lol I was being challenged to be a man.. Lol
I was a man and told them to pay their darn bills.
I am not toiling through the month to be stressed by people who retrospectively didn't even deserve my time
I was a man and told them to pay their darn bills.
I am not toiling through the month to be stressed by people who retrospectively didn't even deserve my time
Slavery is a Choice.
Kanye Luther King.
Kanye Luther King.
"But my hand was made strong
By the hand of the Almighty
We forward in this generation
Triumphantly
Won't you help to sing
These songs of freedom?
'Cause all I ever have
Redemption songs
Redemption songs"
Song of the day!
By the hand of the Almighty
We forward in this generation
Triumphantly
Won't you help to sing
These songs of freedom?
'Cause all I ever have
Redemption songs
Redemption songs"
Song of the day!
Share your experiences, Black Kings,
Have you ever had to pay for bills that you hadn't planned on spending money on through being shamed?
#MasculinityKE
Have you ever had to pay for bills that you hadn't planned on spending money on through being shamed?
#MasculinityKE
Lol how did I forget the waitresses at clubs who go round with shot bottles on a band round their waist, who get drinks for the girls you're sitting with, pour them shots really quickly and then come to you for the bill?π
I've paid the bill in previous situation to 1) avoid drama and some babes look like they're going to cause it if you walk away 2) to avoid the embarassment. The waitress even ushered us to a corner. If she had said I was paying and I went, it would have been a scene. No moreπ
Speak up. What have you gone through?π #MasculinityKE
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Kuwa true mtu wangu. Just be honest about your financial position and ask about who will pay in advance.
Die driver, die conductor, crash bus. Liwe liwalo.
Their financial limitations should not be your shame. π
Die driver, die conductor, crash bus. Liwe liwalo.
Their financial limitations should not be your shame. π
There are always those people whose hands grow shorter when the bill comes. They're suddenly tipsy. They're suddenly off to dance again. They're so sleepy. Their phones can't stop ringing. They go back to normal once the bill is paid.
Punda ya King'oorero hao!
Punda ya King'oorero hao!
Lol wau, how did I forget how this boy child also at some point paid girl child's rent and was left without the little savings he hadπππππππππ
This life!
This life!
We need to realise we're not alone. Going home wondering why you didn't just sleep!
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You are not alone. 
People who've been forced to walk away from ridiculous bills..
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Stories from all over Africa π
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Every man learns from experienceπ
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Say no and don't budgeπ
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I'm being called broke and useless
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RT WIDELY. I feel no shame at all!
I'm being called broke and useless
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RT WIDELY. I feel no shame at all!
Have you ever heard of a pizza emergency?
Neither have I.
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#MasculinityKE
Neither have I.
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#MasculinityKE
This happens way too many times
#MasculinityKE
#MasculinityKE
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Wow!
The audacity! πππππππ
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The audacity! πππππππ
#MasculinityKE
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Calling someone to pay for your bill. People you don't know feeling entitled to you paying their bill. Smh
#MasculinityKE
#MasculinityKE
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