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Jul 26, 2018 9 tweets 4 min read Twitter logo Read on Twitter
Hilary Holiday @mplshilary Tweeted a while back about a friend of hers being raped.

It was me.

Out of respect for me she did not out him but provided his info privately to whomever wanted to know.

After some therapy and healing I'm ready to out him.
The man who raped me is Sumeet Dham. He works at Boston Scientific. He has a family. He practices Hinduism.
There was no sign over his head stating "rapist". He even had a reference I verified.

He spit on my face while he raped me.
He tried to touch and console me.
He told me afterward "forgiveness is important."
I placated him and was very sweet to him to get him to leave without things escalating to violence. That's what survival instincts do.
Once he left, he texted me from his car stating he wanted to come back in and have me "fuck him again." I declined, because at this point I was safe and had the choice to say no.

I was raped. I had no choice. It was NOT my fault. Was I traumatized? Yeah, but not in the way you'd think - I'm fucking furious. I have NEVER had a client treat me with such utter disregard and blatant hatred and disrespect.
But am I damaged? No way. There are so many wonderful men in this world who respect and adore me. It's times like this when I appreciate them all the more.
So, to all the people I know who have cared deeply and supported me, you have healed me.
Please don't pity me - just be angry, and help make sure this man never hurts another person. At this point, I'm okay -
the only thing that salts the sore is the escorts whom have lashed out at me because of my response to my experience.
No, I'm not a racist. Yes, I know there are wonderful, respectful Indian men.
Your blind, red emotions aren't helpful to me. Please direct them at the proper target - men who rape.

And for those of you who have gone through a situation like mine - feel free to message me.
Zero shame. Zero.
If our experiences mark us, they only do so in the sense that we become stronger and, hopefully, more compassionate toward others.

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