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A #SpendYourPrivilege lesson from last nights #InsecureHBO:

Stop coming up to those of us with marginalized identities *after* the meeting and telling us how you “really appreciated” what we said or how you’re “sorry for how you were treated.”

It is literally one of the most irksome things in the world to have “allies” claim they have your back in private but we’re silent in public. Or who say it to ME and not our superiors.

If. You. Don’t. Say. It. When. Or. To. Whom. It. Matters. It. Doesn’t. Count.
And I’d like to say I tell “allies” this every time it happens...but it happens SO MUCH that I’d be exhausted.

It’s exhausting to be courageous and marginalized in shared spaces and stand alone til the meeting is wrapped.

Nah-I need to know who my friends are *now,* not later.
Choosing silence is a waste of your privilege-provilege that could be used to call attention, hold people to account, and actually walk your talk.

“I don’t want to rock the boat” = “I want to hold on to my privilege.”

#SpendYourPrivilege. You didn’t earn it, so give it a way.
An addendum: human rights tees and decor alone do not an ally make.

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