Thread by @AishaYesufu

Today I am going to talk about marriage and the little things that we do not really think they matter but they are really what makes or break marriage overtime
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It is normally said marry someone you like. Like for me is more important in marriage than love. Love is important don't get me wrong but it's like that gets one through the years and years😁
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Love is a consuming high energy emotion. Like is a more subtle and durable emotion that is mostly stable. Love can be unstable. There is a thin line between love and hate.
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When thinking about marriage focus much on the like part. If there is something major you don't like please move on even if the love is there. It never gets better after marriage it actually gets worse. Now you live with it😁
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Many a time the signs are there before marriage but just that many people think it would get better once they are married. Marriage is not a magic wand that gets things better. Work on it or move on before the marriage
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Have you seen married couple who are constantly quarrelling yet when brought together for reconciliation there is nothing major they are telling you? Some even end in divorce! It's because of these little things that get each aggravated
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Marriage is about commitment. Once you are both 100% commitment you are good to go. Don't bring 50:50 to a marriage. Bring 100:100
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What are the little things that get each of you aggravated? Find solutions to them. Remember you are both different people who now have to fit your lives together
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You both were brought up differently. You both have had years to build up your habits and you both most respect each other's way.
Do your thing let the other do theirs. It doesn't have to be one way
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I have been married for 20 years and the reason why we both have an amazing marriage is because we have made peace with the little things that crop up and there are rules we both respect🤣
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So yesterday my husband brought out a new toothpaste and he left the old one. It's a coping mechanism we have adopted. I like to squeeze the last drop out of everything and my husband wouldn't be bothered. He would throw it away and I wouldn't like that. So this!
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So now my husband brings out a new one, he has his peace of mind and I have my peace of mind still squeezing out from the old tube. None of us is irritable because of toothpaste and coming at each other. It happens with soap, cream deodorant (We share the same)
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There are some couples who fight over using toothpaste from the middle or from the bottom. It was worse when the tubes were hard to squeeze from. My solution to such quarrelling is buy two tubes and let each use theirs the way they want to
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Another thing we used to squabble over is bathroom slippers. My husband would always take it to the sitting room and leave it there and take the other out. When I want to use the bathroom there would be no slippers. Now the blue one is mine DONT TOUCH IT
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Now each one has his or her own slippers. He can take his own out no wahala but I get to see my own in front of the bathroom and now because his own is never there when he needs to use the bathroom he is more conscious about leaving it there. Case solved
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The first 6 years of our marriage we lived in rented flats & shared wardrobe. We quarrelled over who made the wardrobe untidy. I vowed if we have our own house it was one thing we would never share. For the last 14 years we have not shared wardrobe & happier for it
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There are many of such examples in any marriage. Find simple solutions to them and move on. It makes your marriage happier. Don't get bogged down fighting unnecessary things that just sap the positive energy in a marriage
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Quarrelling just saps the positive energy and brings in loads of negative energy which you cannot use to think progressively. Instead of working together as a couple to achieve your goals you are busy scheming who would hurt each other the most
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No matter what the quarrel is about, always remember how much you love each other and the reason you decided to be married in the first place. Also don't both be angry at the same time. Give each other room to be angry one person at a time
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Quarrelling would happen but even as you quarrel keep your mind on the lovemaking that follows when you settle. It's usually out of this world😍😍
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Did I forget to talk about the fights over TV channel? We settled that by having TV in different rooms and also having dual view. He can watch his CI in peace while I watch TLC.
We now find ourselves compromising because we want to be together and watch something
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Marriage is constantly worked upon and goals set for it. Even though I have been married for 20 years I am always updating, assessing and seeking for feedback. I am always setting marital goals. It must constantly be worked upon and kept fresh. No room for boredom
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Work on your marriage the way you work on your business and career.
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From replying someone I just realised one coping mechanism we used to deal with unnecessary squabbling over little things. We hired helps. From housekeeper to wash and handy man to cook.
If I were to be doing all these I would be one heck of a bitter woman 😘
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My husband jejely started getting helps for me when we got married. He knew me and housework don't jell. I leave myself pampered to do the main work marriage allowed us to do and for which we would both be earning plenty rewards from God
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Marriage is about commitment. Once you are both 100% committed you are good to go. Don't bring 50:50 to a marriage. Bring 100:100
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"100% Committed"