Thread by @sohinichat

CP Surendran #MeToo
CP once chased me around a lawn party in Jor Bagh (to launch the publishing house Random House on India) when I worked at OPEN magazine. I'll explain what 'chased me' means. I got a bad vibe because he patted or touched me proprietarily, and I got a scare >

I could have misread his situation which is why I decided to avoid him. He was also high, I thought. He chose to follow me around, calling me naive, sexually clumsy, inexperienced... variations on this theme. All of which I may have been. I was/am the earnest Bengali studious >

type. BUT I don't see why he (or anyone should) has the licence to shame me by calling me these things. This is the sort of thing that even the person(s) you share sexual intimacy with, even when they describe you as such, it's a pretty sickening thing to do. I think I know why >

he could do this though... the entitlement of being a powerful, well-known writer editor poet. This is a form of emotional abuse, rigid-shaming or prude-shaming you, the opposite of slut-shaming but perhaps just as damaging.
I didn't lodge a complaint with HR in OPEN >

I lacked the articulation, and confidence to put this in words to others.
I genuinely felt it was shameful, that my lack of sexual experience was such that a powerful writer could smell it out and call me names in a party.

All in all, a pretty terrible memory.
#MeToo