Ross Dothan's NYTimes column about "The Redistribution of Sex" is a great example of why people who are not well-versed in sexuality as a field should not be writing about topics as fraught as incels and their violent demands of more sexual gratification from women.
Our response to incels should NOT be a thought experiment about sex robots + government sex redistribution programs. It should be a blistering disavowal of their violent, misogynist worldview, and a conversation about creating a healthier, more respectful sexual culture for all.
Ross Douthat makes a grave mistake taking incels at their word that they can't get laid and conflating them with marginalized groups considered unattractive for bigoted reasons. Incels could get laid if they didn't hate women and feel entitled to *hot* women.
I think we do have a right to a healthy sex life: to access to sexual healthcare, to a society free of sexual shame. But we do not have a right to other peoples' bodies, and that's what the incels believe. They don't feel entitled to sexual pleasure, they feel entitled to women.
"I expect the logic of commerce and technology will be consciously harnessed... to address the unhappiness of incels, be they angry and dangerous or simply depressed and despairing."
The incel worldview is inherently sexist. Their unhappiness is really hatred.
I don't understand why the @nytimes invested in a literal Gender Editor and is still letting op-eds that are tenuous at best and deeply damaging at worst like Ross Douthat's latest see the light of day. @jessicabennett, what do you think of this? Can you please write a response?
Hey media! Incels are the new Gamergate. Are you going to mess this up again? Are you going to laugh them off as a weird curiosity with valid ideas to explore, or are you going to recognize them as a hate movement that has *already* inspired multiple murders?
Why are men in media responding to an *actual murderer and misogynist terrorist* by talking about sex robots and wondering if nerds have a right to get laid? WHAT ARE YOU DOING. WAKE UP AND SMELL THE SEXISM. IT'S 2018. PEOPLE ARE DYING.
I don't want to hear any more opinions from men about incels unless it's an aggressive dismissal of their violent bullshit or an intelligent conversation about our broken, entitled sexual culture and mental health.
In the mean time, I'm looking for literary representation. 👀
People I want to read #incel takes from:
- sex workers, who are being suggested as a solution and shouldn't have to deal with these shit men as clients
- men engaged in the work of fixing masculinity
- women who have trouble getting laid and somehow manage to not be trash humans!
Do yourself a favor and read @JessicaValenti's essay instead of that other one.
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Just noticed my computer autocorrected Ross Douthat's name here, which is irritating.
Not convinced #incels are dangerous? Read this old reddit post suggesting how incels should be assigned (or "redistributed" 👀) women to sleep with by govt.
"Every time a woman sleeps with a new man, she loses one rank on her sexual-market value card."
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I wrote a massive essay about @roseybeeme's plane couple thread, leaving strangers alone, and the erosion of the divide between public figures and private citizens, someone stop me
The story of the live-tweeted plane couple (#CatchingFlightsANDFeelings) infuriated me. Here's my analysis of how social media's erosion of the divide between public figures and private citizens is now complete.
I've decided to watch The Social Network again for the first time since I started working in social media four years ago. Let's go, Twitter.
Someone should find Mark Zuckerberg's fictional ex-girlfriend Erica who dumped his arrogant, insulting ass less than four minutes into the movie and put her in charge of the free world.
"You're probably going to be a very successful computer person. But you're going to go through life thinking girls don't like you because you're a nerd. I want you to know from the bottom of my heart that that won't be true. It will be because you're an asshole."