#letusmarry I have another story shared with me by a person known as Z for anonymity sake.

Z prepared a statement so I will share their words in screen shot with a transcript to follow.

#spoonie #disabled
Hey! 😊 So, my partner and I have been together for 7 years. He’s at a job right now where he has insurance, but it’s a very unstable industry; he could be let go at any time, with no notice. #letusmarry
His insurance is crap; my medical costs over the next few years could potentially bankrupt us both if we got married. He makes decent money now, but not enough to financially support two people—one of whom is very sick—especially if he loses this job.
I’m currently waiting on disability; more specifically, waiting on a determination for my appeal. We live together but, for various reasons (he’s gone half the time on business, lack of financial security, medication/living expenses for a disabled person, etc.) #letusmarry
I cannot tell the govt. I would also be homeless without him, as I haven’t been able to work in over a year; my medication, doctor’s appointments, and lab/X-rays have been paid for by a combination of crowd-sourcing and a little from my mother, cont.

although she is also unable to help much financially. So, that’s my story as to why I can’t get married.

I’m Jewish; marriage is a big deal in Judaism. The fact that I can’t get married because of my disability is a huge hole in my spiritual life and practice. #letusmarry
Also, I have always wanted kids. Because of my medications, I can’t have biological children, but that doesn’t bother me so much; I would love to adopt. #letusmarry
The problem is that I will never qualify to adopt a child when I’m single, sick, and disabled. Being unable to marry makes it impossible for me to adopt.

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