Thread by @growflet

Today I was thinking about what to do with my #Magic cards.

So often love of a game comes in direct conflict with dislike of playing with people who are fans of the game. This applies from everything to games like #MtG to #Overwatch #WoW #DnD AL and #pathfinder society

I'm still mad over one situation. In #DnD #LFR organized play, I playing an epic level artificer with all the warlord cheese

There was this man who constantly told me I was slow, and he was so insistent about it that he even convinced my friends at the table I was slow.

But look. I had pre-generated tables for every attack, with all normal modifiers.
I would set aside the exact number of dice before my turn, color dice coded per attack type.

I only even had dice applicable to the character. There was no die hunt
I was optimized.

And sure, I had "AND YOU ATTACK!" - which does slow things down.
So I would pre-poke the people I wanted to grant attacks to so they could be prepared to do a basic attack too.

And then we played, I sat in silence, and he still was telling me to hurry up.
BUT I WAS NOW TIMING EVERYONE'S TURNS. Guess what, I was the fastest player at the table despite having the most complicated turns.

And why? IDEK why he would be a jerk like that, but he was well respected.

I think it was because I let everyone shine and stole his thunder, IDK.

I never called him out, I just stopped playing anything with him.
I wish I would have been able to finish the EPIC chain, but meh.

Two years ago I signed up for the DND eXperience at #gencon - I and got sat with a group of strangers and it was absolutely miserable. I literally walked away at the break.

I went and hung out with friends instead. Hi @AmazonChique

One of the guys had his daughter and son there, and he was telling her how to play her character.

AND HE WAS DOING THE SAME THING TO ME.

Listen fucker, I have a legit level 9 warlock, i know how to play her.
He cheated and just made a level 7 fighter at the table. I'm like WTF

He wasn't telling his son how to play, which I found interesting.
And he certainly wasn't telling the other 2 dudes how to play.

And his daughter seemed to have a better handle on her class than he did (a sorcerer)

And I'll say it - the other white dudes at the table would nod and agree with him. And by the end of the first session, everyone at the table were dismissing anything I said and was treating me like a child.

That's a recurrent theme. It's straight up sexism.

And me and the daughter were basically sitting there feeling oppressed together.
She would shoot me sympathetic looks, and I would do the same to her.

I have had a lot of fun with organized play as a player, but it's _always_ been a table of 4-5 friends and me OR a table of mostly women.

If it's me and five white dudes, I'm probably going to have a bad time.

That's my decades worth of experience with OP.

And I have similar stories about playing magic in game stores.
And I have so many online video game stories it's too much to list.

It always comes down to "Do I love the game enough that I am wiling to put up with toxicity I may encounter"