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So I saw a lot of #takes about how this reads like something an abuser says after hurting you and I thought they might have been hyperbolic but nope.…
I'm very lucky in that I've only been in one abusive relationship, and WOW does this piece remind me of his "apologies."
Screaming at me for hours? He's sorry he had to do that but I should have called him back sooner.…
Literally ignore me at a party for hours then demand I leave with him the instant he was ready? I imagined that but even if he'd done it, well, I shouldn't have spent so long talking to that other guy.…
It was totally normal that he called me 14 times in less than 30 minutes when we had no plans because why wouldn't I just pick up my phone? What was I up to, anyway?
(I was watching Anchorman with some girlfriends.)…
Yelling at me for hours in his car for some imagined transgression with his friends (my team had beaten his at '90s Trivial Pursuit) instead of driving me to the event I'd been looking forward to attending was obviously my fault…
Show up at my door after midnight and yell and bang on it until I let him in because I was afraid of disturbing my neighbors? He wanted to have sex with me and I was always supposed to be available and ready for it because didn't I love him?…
He wasn't trying to isolate me from my friends I should want to spend more time with him than them anyway wasn't I as serious about this relationship as he was? Why didn't I love him enough?…
He was so sorry for saying those horrible things to me but that's just how couples fight in adult relationships but if he went too far it's because he was super stressed out about law school.…
He didn't hurt me that was just rough sex and besides why had I tried to refuse him…
He was always sorry if he'd gotten too angry but if he did it was definitely not his fault and probably mine.
Yeah, Kavanaugh's op-ed reads a lot like that.…
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Oct 9, 2018
Dang. Remember this way back [[checks notes]] yesterday?
Well, the woman's son is extremely not what his mom tried to make him a poster child of.
"It doesn't represent me at all . . . I love my mom to death, but boy . . . I'm still trying to wrap my head around all this."…
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You know how I know Dr. Ford is telling the truth when she says she knows with absolute certainty that Brett Kavanaugh tried to rape her? Because when you know your assailant, it's impossible to be mistaken, and it's impossible to forget.
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If someone tried to tell me I was "mistaken" about who raped me, I'd probably laugh. Because it'd be the most absurd thing I'd have ever heard.
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Collins is a yes. Behold my shocked face.
Christ almighty Collins we get it you're voting yes stop wasting our time with this garbage speech
Women everywhere listening to Collins rn
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Talk is cheap. Sen. Flake's call for an FBI investigation was literally meaningless.
McConnell won't delay. Trump won't call for an FBI investigation, no matter how cursory. And I have a hard time believing Flake will grow enough of a spine to vote no on Tuesday.
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The thing I keep coming back to is that, for a white man so assured of his innocence and desperate to clear his name, Kavanaugh seems incongruously resistant to the witnesses, testimony, and investigation necessary to actually do so.
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I love my mom so much
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