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The only way to change women (and the world) is through yourself.

Why even smart people give useless advice on topics they're not involved in.

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Intelligence is the ability to understand and analyze topics. Wisdom is the experience and memory of what a topic is like in practice.

Both are good and amplify each other, but the latter matters more.

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Wisdom allows you to understand a topic at a human depth that is lacking from those on the sidelines.

Fat intellectuals may know Clauswitz by memory but they'll never know the smell and feel of combat.

This matters.

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Many here are anti-democracy - I'm not one of them. But they are right about one thing: from a logical standpoint the masses do not have enough standing to speak on topics.

Big systems are complex, and those who have accomplished little understand little.

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This is why the concept of "skin in the game" has become a core part of #Upstream

We don't care about "this is how things should be" theories. They might as well be fantasies.

Focus on things you know from analysis *and* experience. If you must pick one, choose the latter.

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There is no difference btw a "tradcon" male who isn't dating bc muh hypergamy & a "tradcon" female who spends her time posting thirst pics.

This "save the west" larping is as dissonant as a financially dependent "socialist" thinking HE can "change the system."

WAKE UP.

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YOU are the problem. Things suck because of YOU. Because YOU spend your time complaining online instead of doing things.

You're angry for one reason: because YOU have contempt for YOURSELF.

The mind conducts crazy rationalizations to protect the ego. You are no exception.

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Get right with yourself. Then, once you're happy in your day-to-day, self-sustained, confident - you'll find better quality women.

Choose from them, build your own little culture... help other men do the same. Spread it.

This is how you change the world.

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Oct 5, 2018
"I've experienced X"

"No you haven't, X doesn't exist"

- Fast track way to never learn anything about the world
The difference between me and other people is I never immediately dismiss someone else's experiences.

I know they may not UNDERSTAND their experience, or they may rationalize it poorly.

But if I haven't experienced something and others have, maybe they know something I don't?
I've spent TEN YEARS thinking incessantly about dating, sex & relationships

It's taken me through PUAs, polyamory / spirituality circles, the red pill, and now something else... a synthesis

Never once did I presume to know it all.

Only recently am I learning how far I've come.
Read 9 tweets
Sep 4, 2018
There are two aspects to this.

(mini-thread below)
The first is recognizing your own response to excess. People get desensitized when they are constantly dating. It's like with food - snack on junk and you lose the ability to taste real food. Or like scrolling a feed vs reading a book.

We don't need that many leads.
The second comes in response to the first: you begin to notice individual girls more and feel a draw to them. This is your intuition; these you approach.

My experience (and those of my clients) has been that these approaches almost always go well and lead meaningful dates.
Read 6 tweets
Aug 24, 2018
Dating sucks today because dating has become TRANSACTIONAL. No amount of numbers will change this.

Stop playing the same game and expecting different results.

Modern dating calls for a different game.

(THREAD)
I've been in this community for a decade and I've seen how it's changed.

The internet introduced collaboration between men, and PUAs assembled online to share tactics. This led first to bar/club game and then hacking online dating.
TRP came next, broadening the information in the tactics to a broader mating strategy, based on an understanding of culture.

Guys now have a foolproof approach to get laid, since they understand the biology of women and the sexual marketplace.
Read 13 tweets
Jul 3, 2018
People are so weird about this stuff. Don't go into debt for a ring, but there's nothing wrong with buying something nice if you can afford it - she's going to wear it every day.
Price comes down to 4 variables: carat, color, clarity, cut.

Carat (size) is up to you, but overrated
Color matters but top end unnecessary
Clarity doesn't matter at all (unless very bad)
Cut is the most important thing

You get charged for all these, so decide accordingly
I got my wife half carat or less in size (can't remember), above average with color, average clarity, and ideal cut.

Cut is what makes the diamond sparkle.

The ring is gorgeous and cost like $2500, looks better than 10k rings. It's her favorite possession.
Read 5 tweets
Jun 26, 2018
Biological Attraction is the man's "Burden of Performance"

I have talked about this over 1000+ times. I have written about it:

patstedman.com/2016/10/12/wom…
patstedman.com/2016/09/29/wom…
patstedman.com/2016/01/28/do-…

I will not write about it for 10+ years like other Red Pill "thought leaders"
Once you get the basics handled (these are BASICS) there are other things you must know to have a good relationship with women

If you cannot understand this, you are NOT ready to follow me

Maybe one day

Or maybe never

I don't care
Stop tweeting at me dumb shit like "durr you don't think men have to be masculine to attract women"

You are under cognitive dissonance

You are OUT OF YOUR LEAGUE

I am speaking to people who have internalized something you haven't
Read 5 tweets
May 23, 2018
Renaissances are about decentralization.

The printing press led to information, which led to the rejection of the priestly class that had previously controlled it.

There is zero difference with what is happening to the media today and the implications will be just as enormous.
People understand this surface part but miss the big picture.

A lot of people resisted new information. Once old institutions (somewhat) reformed in light of the pressure many remained committed.

So neighbors killed each other.

The 30 years war was an absolute bloodbath.
It was so bad even the eastern front in WW2 pales in comparison.

1/3rd of the Holy Roman Empire (roughly modern Germany) died.

Because people were not just fighting over “differences of opinion,” they were fighting over frame.
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