"I've experienced X"

"No you haven't, X doesn't exist"

- Fast track way to never learn anything about the world The difference between me and other people is I never immediately dismiss someone else's experiences.

I know they may not UNDERSTAND their experience, or they may rationalize it poorly.

But if I haven't experienced something and others have, maybe they know something I don't?

There are two aspects to this.

(mini-thread below)

https://twitter.com/DaysOfGame_com/status/1036794947368759296

The first is recognizing your own response to excess. People get desensitized when they are constantly dating. It's like with food - snack on junk and you lose the ability to taste real food. Or like scrolling a feed vs reading a book.

We don't need that many leads.

Dating sucks today because dating has become TRANSACTIONAL. No amount of numbers will change this.

Stop playing the same game and expecting different results.

Modern dating calls for a different game.

(THREAD) I've been in this community for a decade and I've seen how it's changed.

The internet introduced collaboration between men, and PUAs assembled online to share tactics. This led first to bar/club game and then hacking online dating.

People are so weird about this stuff. Don't go into debt for a ring, but there's nothing wrong with buying something nice if you can afford it - she's going to wear it every day.

https://twitter.com/KittenHoliday/status/1014124697053642752

Price comes down to 4 variables: carat, color, clarity, cut.

Carat (size) is up to you, but overrated
Color matters but top end unnecessary
Clarity doesn't matter at all (unless very bad)
Cut is the most important thing

You get charged for all these, so decide accordingly

Biological Attraction is the man's "Burden of Performance"

I have talked about this over 1000+ times. I have written about it:

patstedman.com/2016/10/12/wom…
patstedman.com/2016/09/29/wom…
patstedman.com/2016/01/28/do-…

I will not write about it for 10+ years like other Red Pill "thought leaders" Once you get the basics handled (these are BASICS) there are other things you must know to have a good relationship with women

If you cannot understand this, you are NOT ready to follow me

Maybe one day

Or maybe never

I don't care

Renaissances are about decentralization.

The printing press led to information, which led to the rejection of the priestly class that had previously controlled it.

There is zero difference with what is happening to the media today and the implications will be just as enormous. People understand this surface part but miss the big picture.

A lot of people resisted new information. Once old institutions (somewhat) reformed in light of the pressure many remained committed.

So neighbors killed each other.

The 30 years war was an absolute bloodbath.

Psychologically unhealthy, low self-esteem women may say they want a "good guy," but because they value themselves so little they will lose respect for you if you treat them well.

Most of TRP theory is based on interacting with these women. Healthy relationships require trust and love, yet this is impossible in these relationships because the people (yes, the men too) neither trust nor love themselves.

TRP is an effective strategy, but only to survive low-consciousness dating with insecure women.

IN DEFENSE OF BOOMERS (AND PERSPECTIVE FOR MILLENNIALS)

/1 If you’re like most people, you probably find boomers annoying. Left thinks they’re backwards and destroyed the economy, right thinks they’re naive and destroyed culture

Guys go through a series of stages of understanding with women.

It's very easy to tell a guy where he's at based on how he talks about them.

THREAD The first stage is akin to "unconscious incompetence." Dude has no idea what women are about. Does what society tells him to do without thinking.

These are the guys who put women on pedestals, get taken advantage of by women, but won't hear a thing against them.

Some thoughts on individual fate and the nature of the universe

THREAD The future can be changed, but only within a narrow bound of probability.

In this sense predetermination is both correct and incorrect: you can change your destiny, but the range of it is effectively locked in.

That said - in every man's range there exists a heaven and hell.

The West's issue is one of consciousness. Can't win it by descending to a lower level.

This isn't a moral argument but a realization that the solution to the problem is in how you approach it.

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We have powerful technology but no transcendent purpose to funnel it towards. Result is much of it serves only to distract, further degrade our identity... speeding actors towards nihilism or more overt self-destructive impulses (e.g. cultural marxism).

2/

Higher consciousness has been known since at least the Greeks, but numbers possessing it were always small.

Why?

The physical world demanded different behavior.

Technology, for all its faults, offers us the chance to move beyond this collectively.

1/ This is the paradox of tech.

Physical needs are met easily, so a basic sense of meaning (through survival against odds) is lost.

But with physical needs met, the opportunity exists for us to find meaning beyond it.

2/

The only way to change women (and the world) is through yourself.

Why even smart people give useless advice on topics they're not involved in.

1/ Intelligence is the ability to understand and analyze topics. Wisdom is the experience and memory of what a topic is like in practice.

Both are good and amplify each other, but the latter matters more.

2/

HOW TO HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN

First things first, check inward. What are you doing right, what do you need to work on?

1/ When I work with clients I use my 3 Pillars heuristic to assess:

- Preselection
- Persona
- Personality

patstedman.com/2016/10/26/thr…

2/

Listen to women. They are telling you what they want and how they feel.

Just ignore their words - mostly noise - it's all in the subcommunication.

1/ ***CAVEAT***

This does not mean change your behavior to appease her.

It's about discerning relevant information from irrelevant.

You may note something and choose to disregard it as it conflicts with your vision. All good.

2/

In the beginning there were only 5 of us. Want to say a word about each and why they matter #Upstream #UpstreamTwitter #Thankful

1/ Is one of the funniest guys I follow. The quintessential instigator, he's pissed off pretty much everyone at some point - myself included - for his own amusement.

Few realize tho he was responsible for organizing #Upstream. He put our thought into action.

2/

2 years into monogamy I stopped taking guys out to meet women.

Directed them to Goldmund, Nick Sparks, others living the lifestyle.

/1 The reason for this was simple.

I wasn't doing it anymore, and I knew men would benefit more from those still a part of that experience.

2/

Think of your mind like a computer:

Hardware (Intelligence, hormones, genetics etc)
Software (Personality Type)
Data (Experience / Upbringing)

1/ Your intelligence and hormonal receptors determine your ability to process information. Most of this comes built in; can only somewhat be modified.

2/

Three types of mental states:
- Distracted
- Flow
- Present

/1 State #1 is what happens when dopamine is low and/or stress is high. Cannot focus.

It is characterized by being IN YOUR HEAD

2/

"I'm a virtuous person"

If you're a man & you're harmless, you're not virtuous - you're a coward using morality as a shield.

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Masculinity + Femininity are where each sex draws its power. Virtue is not using said power to take from others. Latter requires former. 2/

Alpha has been defined as a guy who bangs lots of women; the lover.

Convenient rhetorically, but fundamentally wrong. Here's why: /thread Guys are told to spin plates to a) show them women are replaceable b) maintain their frame w options c) create competition anxiety in women