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@Kaija_Rayne
Mar 2, 2018 • 15 tweets • 8 min read • Read on X
Chp: 22 REWRITE

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
actually sorry, the formatting sucks, the title heading is

"REWRITE THE FAIRYTALE"

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
"It's agony to utter the words aloud. With them, I finally kill the fairytale that Zack would be functionally normal and be fully included in school, have regular play dates with peers, develop typical romantic relationships, go to college, marry and so much more."

#KaeEditsAUWE
What a crock of 💩

Aunt Frances Owens: My darling girl, when are you going to realize that being normal is not necessarily a virtue? It rather denotes a lack of courage!---Practical Magic.

Seriously. Normal is a setting on the dryer, & a boring one.

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
Has my romantic relationship w/my husband of 20 years been 'normal'? Not even close. It's been AMAZING.

Was my schooling 'normal'? Nope. Could've done w/o the bullying, but I loved learning.

fully included? If people taught their kids not to be jackasses

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
we COULD be.

Go to college? Well she managed a JD didn't she? I've got a Masters...

The world needs to change. We autistic people DON'T.

Books like this do NOT help.
They hurt.

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
The dad Keith deserves a medal for loving his son. JUST AS HE IS.

He shoulda divorced this bitch though, a long time ago.

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
At least she admits, 5 years too late

"I've been grieving over a child who is alive and happy. A mother bereaved, only my child is able to laugh and run free and maybe even a great deal more if I'm willing to contemplate a different outcome for him."

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
Hah!

"I am a scientist parsing facts, looking for evidence, and contemplating new theories."

Whitney Ellenby? I've got your evidence right here... 🖕🏼

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
She wouldn't know science if it bit her on the arse. If she did, she'd note that she and her husband are both likely autistic.

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum

She still talks about 'training' us to do menial labor jobs because (the sense is) that's all we CAN do.
and here's me... who was an awful lot like Zack when he was young, with a masters in world history, a background in forensics and who does a really great job writing and editing.

Attention to detail. #KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
The rest of the chapter is her asking herself methodical questions she SHOULD have asked at the outset of Zacks confirmation.

How could she write this book knowing she'd already had a change of heart? IF she even did?

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
Ugh. And of course, instead of reaching out to autistic adults to see if, you know, we might know something... she decided to FORCE her son into situations to 'cure him' of his phobias.

and she calls herself a scientist? I don't.

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
She is SO FOCUSED on 'recovery from autism' that she's damaging her son.

My gods. Even this 'turn around' and deciding to abandon ABA hasn't changed that.

Yuck.

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum
Wrap of chapter

#KaeEditsAUWE #ElmoMum

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Okay. So I'm reading an old favorite of mine. And while I still love it it's so bad!

Head hopping.
Heaving bosoms
Blushing virgins.
HEAD HOPPING

oh my...

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Oh gods... And bold manhoods too.
Ugh. This heroine is so freaking petulant.
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Friendship is the oddest thing.

I don't offer it to many ppl bcs I'm usually disappointed. It's just been my life experience.

Today I've realized that I'm likely to be friends for a very long time with one person I haven't talked to much lately bcs of life/baby stuff.

& I
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I don't really understand how or why that happens for me. It's very clear in my head, it's not something that's intentional in any way.

It just happens.

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Like if they considered us *casual mates* and I thought *found family*, or if they thought *potential love interest* and I thought *fun person to chat online with*

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Aug 8, 2018
Ok. I was finally pushed into soft-blocking someone. I just did not want a big wig m/a/g/a type following me.

I looked at the timeline & profile & noped out.

He didn't take the hint & kept refollowing (yes I feel bad, maybe he didn't get it, & it's still ableist)

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am a vulnerable minority, many of my twitter peeps are too, so nope nope. He's now blocked.

I sometimes hate this world.

For all I know he was trying to learn, but I can't afford to take that risk with either myself or my peeps.

Not in 2018.

SMDH. As I've *always* said
Soft-blocking can be ableist because its use is predicated on the assumption that everyone understands it exists & that ppl might use it.

Many ppl don't know or understand when it's happening, the very definition of intellectual ableism.

But if you have to use it for your or
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Jul 30, 2018
Gut punch.

500 agent queries on 3 books over 3 yrs.

I always told them my marginalizations (queer, autistic, mixed race, disabled, mentally ill) cause fuck, you'll see it in the MS.

I thought maybe I was fooling myself w/thinking my books were good.

Then I turned to small
press and got offers w/i months.

My most recent book is on bloody display at The Ripped Bodice (please go buy one there. Support their commitment to real diversity).

I was repeatedly told by agents that my books were *too diverse*.

I'm tired. But I'm not going to quit.
Ppl like Me, Like Sasha, like everyone need to be able to see themselves on page in all the genres they could ever hope to read.

The gatekeepers need to get with the bloody program.

Though I doubt I'll ever be strong enough to query agents again. Not after my exp.

Lolz, maybe
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Jul 21, 2018
I snort every time I see people down on mobile eyebrows for writing stuff.

It's ridiculous. Do all y'all writers ever actually LOOK at another human's face? Eyebrows, lids & corners of the eyes are the MOST mobile & expressive parts of our faces.

Even more so than the mouth.
I am quite proud to cling to my eyebrow motions in writing. My brows are the easiest way for you to tell how I'm feeling.

I can control my mouth and eyes okay, brows? Not so much.

Wiggly eyebrows are GOOD when describing characters. As with anything it shouldn't be overused,
but it's like that REALLY AWFULLY BAD ADVICE to get rid of all instances of *was*.

Seriously, have you ever tried that? (I have, it equals a very horrible piece of prose.)

With all writing advice, please, please, please remember that it's YOUR story. YOU write it how y'all see
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Jul 20, 2018
This is a huge pet peeve of mine.

So many ppl use the term *Mary sue* to basically bash an authors work because it didn't resonate.

Very few ppl actually know what a Mary Sue actually is. (It isn't nice/saintly)

There's actually a very specific definition of what MS is.
Betcha many of you couldn't explain it to a 5 year old, meaning you probably don't understand it.

So maybe don't use the term *Mary sue* with regards to an authors work unless you're REALLY SURE.

There's a (long) quiz linked on my website under resources for writers that
clarifies what a Mary Sue/Gary Stu is.

And honestly, the whole concept is rooted in sexism against women anyway.

I give anyone using the term extreme side-eye.

It's also painful as fvck to have a well rounded character (who you've worked really hard on) called that.

Esp.
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