The Wife's fam are immigrants.
So tonight we were talking about #JohnKelly.
I am imagining #MothersDay with the fam all together & The Wife's mother, whose parents were a carpenter & a lacemaker who didn't speak English. The Wife's mother is a painter & retired art professor.
#JohnKelly's xenophobia & racism are over-the-top, even for someone in the Trump administration. How can someone who lost a child be so cavalier about children being separated from their mothers? How can he claim immigrants can't assimilate? How do Trump's people talk like this?
#HeyJohnKelly
My father's mother was from Sweden, never went to school past 5th grade. Her husband, my grandfather, never went past 8th. She took in washing, he was a photographer. They were both functionally illiterate.
My father won a scholarship to an Ivy League college.
#HeyJohnKelly My father-in-law was one of the painters of WWII. He was awarded the OBE. His parents were immigrants--from Russia and Poland respectively. They didn't speak English. They opened a hardware store, sent their two sons to college. My FIL's paintings are in museums.
#HeyJohnKelly One of my wife's uncles, an immigrant, served in the Korean War. He was a police officer for 50yrs. As I said, his parents didn't speak English.
There are so many families like our family--people who are the children and grandchildren of immigrants.
#HeyJohnKelly When I was still teaching college writing courses, many of my students were immigrants. From all over. I always was so impressed that they had learned English so well that they could write in it as well as my students for whom English was a first language.
#HeyJohnKelly How many other languages do you speak? I read two other languages well, but my accents aren't great, I'm a slow speaker. I have to hope people will be kind and listen carefully as I fumble with their native language.
#HeyJohnKelly When I taught English as a second language when I was in college, the majority of my students were mothers. They worked nights cleaning office buildings. They were determined to learn English so that they weren't dependent on their children to be their translators.
#HeyJohnKelly My friend Mr. Fong manages the Asian restaurant in my neighborhood. He swam out of Mao's China at 17 to escape. He got to an aunt in Venezuela, made his way here. He speaks four languages. He says his early life was "very, very hard." He's an extraordinary man.
#HeyJohnKelly At the hospital where I often am (I am fighting #cancer), immigrant Filipino ladies bring communion every day, because there aren't enough priests. I've been so grateful to them for their prayers and for the service they do for the Church and for sick people.
#HeyJohnKelly At the hospital where I am being treated, a large teaching hospital, at least half the staff are immigrants--the doctors, nurses, aides, cleaning crew. Not all of them are documented. They all contribute to saving lives, though.
#HeyJohnKelly We have undocumented #lesbian friends who are in hiding. They were at risk of corrective rape and being killed in their countries of origin. We don't want them to be sent back to die. We want them here, safe, to have a free life. You don't recognize their humanity.
#HeyJohnKelly This is just one American's story of her family & the immigrants that made/make it what it is. You made me think about every immigrant in my life, how wonderful they are, how grateful I am for them & how much they contribute to our nation.
More, perhaps, than you.
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I don't think men really understand how different it is to be a woman out in the world and how quickly things can turn dangerous.
When I was living in New Orleans, I was walking home from work one night. It was fall--dark early & foggy.
A man came out of the fog toward me.
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He said hi, I said hi.
As he started to pass me, he asked me if I had the time.
I looked at my watch, looked up, he had a gun pointed at me.
He hit me so fast I wasn't able to steel myself.
I fell to the ground.
He said, "I could rape you right now, but I don't have time."
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He wanted my money.
I had the grocery money for the entire house (I lived with 3 other people) in my purse.
He took it and disappeared into the fog.
The whole thing was maybe ten minutes, start to finish.
I was shaking so hard I could hardly get up.
My head was bleeding.
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The majority of the working class in America is women and POC.
And white men as a group haven't voted majority Democrat since 1964--they stopped after LBJ signed the the #VRA.
Flip the narrative and start listening to the ACTUAL working class--the rest of us.
Stop centering white men for everything.
Stop claiming only white men can save us from the damage white men did to us.
Women are the working class--my investigation here:
.@matthewstoller is very worried about white men, but it's really women of all races who are facing the worst effects of economic and social stresses.
My investigation here: damemagazine.com/2018/05/10/why…
The relentlessness of passing over superb women with strong credentials & election histories in favor of whatever man is a headline at a moment is exhausting.
Two months ago it was Avenatti. Now it's O'Rourke.
Bypassing the majority of Americans--women--is a national disgrace.
O'Rourke is fine. He is not, Harris, Gillibrand or Klobuchar.
▪Gillibrand is Congress' leader on women's rights & sexual assault victims.
▪Harris set NN2018 on fire with her speeches reclaiming identity politics.
▪ Klobuchar highlighted #Kavanaugh's unfitness for SCOTUS.
Americans MUST stop looking past women to find some man, any man to supplant them.
It took THIRTY YEARS of incredibly hard work for @HillaryClinton to get to run for POTUS. The rules for women are so different. No one sees a woman give a single speech and says "president!"
I lived in NOLA right after college.
I drank most every day, as did everyone I knew.
We were all in the domestic Peace Corps, all in our early 20s, all hardworking activists with stressful work.
We drank too much at Mardi Gras, New Year's.
It's absurd to claim #Kavanaugh didn't.
Those of us who've had alcoholics in our lives--like Klobuchar--tend to be careful about alcohol because we've been damaged by the drunks in our lives. I'm a control freak, so never liked being drunk, but lots of my friends did. What IS true, is most 20somethings drink to excess.
This new tack from the #GOP to dismiss #Kavanaugh's alcoholic drinking--& I am not saying he was/is an alcoholic, but he certainly drank like one--is just wrong. It undermines their own credibility and ignores reality: statistically the vast majority of teens/20s get drunk OFTEN.
Let's talk about sex, #Kavanaugh & Venn diagram overlap of male entitlement.
I've written a lot about sex in various contexts. In the late 80s/early 90s I also gave safe sex workshops back when folks my age were dying 24/7 from #AIDS. My 1st book was on juvenile prostitution.
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Most of us know consensual and non-consensual sex differ. The entirety of #Kavanaugh's defense and his defenders' outrage is predicated on the presumption that no teenaged boy knows what consent is.
THEY. KNOW.
Some, like their adult counterparts, don't care.
This is key.
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Since #MeToo we've seen egregious serial rapists like #BillCosby and #HarveyWeinstein exposed & attempts made to prosecute them.
But there are "lesser" sexual assaults we've given a lighter hand to: Matt Lauer, Charlie Rose, Mark Halperin, Louis CK--too many to list.
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