1. We understand people perceive love in different ways and if a relationship will be built effectively, particular attention must be given to this. You must be sensitive to your spouse’s difference and always take this into consideration. #LoveandMarriage
2. Gary Chapman in his Book describes it as the Five Love Languages. Some people feel loved when they are physically touched, others prefer words of affirmation, some others like gifts and the size does not matter because it’s their love language. #LoveandMarriage
3. Others appreciate quality time; they want you to drop everything and focus on them while some people feel loved when tasks are done for them; this is known as acts of service. #LoveandMarriage
4. It is important when we come into a relationship that we find out what the other person’s love language is & speak the language. We should apply it to God, because our love for God can overflow to people around us. (1st John 3:16) #LoveandMarriage
5. It’s time to ask your spouse what their love language is. In fact, the real question you need to ask is “How do you want me to love you?’’ You have to try to see things from the other person’s eyes. #LoveandMarriage
6. Our default means of communicating love is our own love language and this would be fine if both spouses have the same love language. In the event that our love languages are different, there will be a mismatch which leads to misunderstandings. #LoveandMarriage
7. Gender differences also affects the way we perceive love. The way a man perceives love is different from the way a woman perceives love. Sometimes your spouse is communicating love but you have been love deaf. #LoveandMarriage
8. Men and women score acts of love differently. However, there are always exceptions. With a man, the bigger or more dramatic, the more points you score. With a woman. Big or small, your gestures score 1 point each. #LoveandMarriage
9. A woman may weigh every act equally hence the need to constantly make kind gestures, big or small so she feels loved. A text message or a rose flower every now and then will communicate to her that she was on your mind in the course of your busy day. #LoveandMarriage
10. Communication is the food of love. It is the key to intimacy. Temperaments and Personality differences also affects the way we communicate love. The way introverts communicate is different from the way extroverts communicate. #LoveandMarriage
11. Communication with an extrovert has to be cheerful while communication with an introvert has to be thoughtful. #LoveandMarriage
12. Sex helps intimacy in marriage. It works differently for men than for women, with exceptions. Their desires are expressed differently. Men are visually stimulated, so help your man, when a man is well fed at home he is not likely to be interested in snacks. #LoveandMarriage
13. A woman is emotional & needs to feel cared for. Men should not show care 5 minutes before they want action, for women the desire is built up from various steps. Someone said that sex begins in the kitchen; it begins with helping to wash the dishes. #LoveandMarriage
14. Learning to love someone is like learning a new language. It takes humility and practice. Humility makes a successful marriage possible. #LoveandMarriage
15. The text in Philippians 2:3-4 points out two things that are important. This two things will destroy relationships and marriages. First; Selfishness, not paying attention to the other persons needs and placing it above yours. #LoveandMarriage
16. The other is Pride. When you start to compete with your mate and considering them less important than you, there is a problem. You were not called into competition with your spouse, you were called into completion. #LoveandMarriage
17. Look out for the interest of the other person. The more you meet your spouses needs, the more fulfilment, peace and joy you will enjoy in your marriage. #LoveandMarriage
18. You have no excuse not to be a loving person. The person who does you wrong has started a cycle, you don’t have to complete it. Sow forgiveness and kindness in your marriage and you will reap it. Matt. 7:12, Luke 6:35-38. #LoveandMarriage
19. God’s ways are not man’s ways. If you do it the way God has asked us to, you will enjoy a peaceful marriage. #LoveandMarriage
20. To the one that chooses to be caring, kind considerate and forgiving, I prophesy that your lifting will be supernatural, God will produce testimonies in your life, obstacles will produce miracles, the power of God will sustain you in Jesus’ name. #LoveandMarriage
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1. Your emotions affect your health. Our emotions have direct impact on the state of our body. Our emotions produce direct physiological effects on our physical bodies. (Isaiah 61:1-3) #HealthyLiving
2. Emotions produce physiological changes in the body. Anxiety makes us sweat. Frustration and sadness produce tears. Embarrassment and fear also produce changes in your system. #HealthyLiving
3. Negative emotions affect our level of immunity. Having a bad mood can make us susceptible to common ailments like cold, malaria, etc. #HealthyLiving
1. We laid the foundation for Exploring Eternity in our last discussion. We said that the physical death of man is not the final termination of the existence of man; beyond the point of death, we continue to live. #ExploringEternity
2. We emphasised that this short life is a preparation for the next one which has no limit. We drew on the Law of Time Perspective - The longer the time you take into consideration when making decisions; the more successful
3. We said that when a Christian has a consciousness of eternity, our short term decisions are more accurate. Psalm 39:4 - The Psalmist’s prays here ‘’Remind me how short my time on earth is’’ because he wanted wisdom. #ExploringEternity
1. One of the stories I find most fascinating in the scriptures is that of the rich man and Lazarus (the poor man) in Luke 16:19. They both died however their lives continued afterwards. #ExploringEternity
2. They ended up in different places. The rich man had serious regrets. They retained their memories after death. Their view of their lives on earth changed. #ExploringEternity
3. From the story they still recognised each other, the rich man realised that his life on earth was in preparation for his life after death & that he had made the wrong choices. He also knew that his brothers’ decisions would qualify them for the same outcome. #ExploringEternity
1. Our children gives God some of the greatest opportunities for Him to answer our prayers for change. When a nation prays for change, God gives them babies, when babies are born, the future is defined and locked into them. #ChildrensDay
2. We have a very important role to play in preparing them to influence their world for good. Children do not need to be taught to sin, it is innate. We therefore need to deliberately put them on the right path. #ChildrensDay
3. WE MUST HELP OUR CHILDREN DEVELOP THE CAPACITY FOR LOVE. Capacity to love God and to love people #ChildrensDay
Thanks to all that posted responses to the questions on my mind. I asked for some reasons. Someone visited his son in the US. His son asked why he’d been only sighing for 3 days as they drove him around. He said, “People are suffering at home but don’t know they’re suffering.”
A former governor told me that he heard people on his cabinet were complaining that he was always talking about vision. They asked if it was vision they were going to eat. How can you win elections describing your vision for development when can’t conceptualize development?
My first few trips to the UAE, Europe and the US were paradigm shifting for me. It was a more powerful experience than watching movies or reading magazines. Normal was redefined. Some things I considered luxury became basic items. My environment and the way I do things changed.
1. We are emphatic about starting and running businesses because these days, our schools are like factories designed to produce en masse, people that are equipped to work for other people #WisdomForBusiness
2. In time past, it was normal for a child to pick up the craft of his/her parents. The child of the farmer took up farming, the child of the carpenter took up carpentry; #WisdomForBusiness
3. Jesus was the son of a carpenter and then somewhere along the line, they asked, “is that not the carpenter?” When you think about it, there was an entrepreneurial dimension to all that; it was a family owned business #WisdomForBusiness