Non-white women have been angry for a long time, and yet that anger was ignored by white feminists. Not only was it ignored, it was silenced, it was mocked, it was dismissed. It was deemed "too much" for the world in general because it wasn't palatable. It must be said that this recent wave of angry white women who are feminists is great all, but *we* have been angry. For a long time. We have been doing the work & suffering from the consequences.

Other than men, white women are the biggest barrier to us dismantling patriarchy. We’ve seen it time and time again how white women want to retain whatever privileges white supremacy affords them, and they’re willing to harm other women in order to retain their “right” to being oppressive towards BIPOC.

Men who sexually assault someone are given so much nuance, humanity and time. People will bend over backwards trying to find ways in which they can paint rapists as simply misguided in a moment of poor judgement as opposed to violent, entitled people who give 0 fucks about their victim's autonomy.

Can we end the whole "you attract who you are" myth?

There are abusive, terrible and mediocre people who latch on to vulnerable, kind and generous folks. Another myth to abolish: You don't have to "love yourself" first in order to be worthy of love in return. You are worthy of being loved, of being safe and well-cared for regardless of how you feel about yourself.

I have written a lot about self-care, I've written threads, essays, done interviews and run a series about it. What it has always come down to for me, is that when marginalized people make space for themselves, when we care about ourselves, that is an act of self-care. For Black, Indigenous women and femmes of color in particular, our self-care is a response to years of internalized social lessons (like putting ourselves last while prioritizing everyone else around us). Self-care for us is breathing our energy back into ourselves.

Cis men: instead of tweeting “happy international women’s day” tell your women co-workers how much you earn.

#InternationalWomenDay2018 Cis men: instead of just tweeting “happy international women’s day” stop relying on women and femmes to perform emotional labor for you.

My therapist had a training session with a white doctor who diagnosed a POC with schizophrenia because he told her about a racist micro-aggression he was subjected to.

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So I'm gonna come out and say it: BIPOC need BIPOC therapists who understand the complexities of white supremacy & race.

When I say men are trash, I mean it. All of you are to one degree or another. When I say white people are racist, I mean it. All of you are to one degree or another.