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Oct 7, 2018 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
I think the thing that’s confusing me is that these men seem to think that women are kind and docile
Some of us are quite happily violent shrieking harridans and just keep that shit in check most days
Like I hold the power of creation in my abdomen every day, do you not think that I can easily destroy you?
Oct 7, 2018 • 7 tweets • 2 min read
Aww look you guys they thought they could destroy the rule of law and people wouldn’t get lawless on them
(I continue to ask why, exactly, we don’t just not go to work on Wednesday. Yes, it’s a harmful thing for a lot of people, but one considers that that is precisely the point, and maybe we should think about just staying home on fucking Wednesday and crashing their markets.)
Oct 2, 2018 • 9 tweets • 2 min read
I’m just enough bourbon in to be able to consider writing this piece about how all these dudes keep talking about the trauma of public repudiation
Because, actually, the thing they’re going through and describing is basically hell. They’re not wrong about that part.
We have not in this millennium stopped to consider how important we’ve made one’s virtual reputation, nor the cost someone pays when we collectively rescind someone’s good name.
I’ve honestly never been through anything more abjectly terrifying.
Sep 28, 2018 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
Might be worth starting a thread for “men discover sexism” as well.
Do you know, the worst part of Rape Month, But All Year Long isn’t the times I relive bad things. Those memories have worn smooth from all the times I have taken them out and examined them for what I did wrong or clues about why me. They’re not sharp anymore.
The worst part is that I had after years gotten to a place where, when I met a man, I wouldn’t necessarily register his threat profile before noting anything else about him.
I could have friendships with men in which I trusted them fully. I could smile on the street on good days
Sep 26, 2018 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
I do too, but here’s the thing: this is now a war of attrition. The more evidence stacks up against this guy the more they have to confirm him; that’s the only way to kill the scandal now. Sure he’ll be under a cloud, but they’ll control the Court.
At this point, they could pull him and replace him with someone else but how many people you think they got that *aren’t* in some skeevy boys’ club? Any new nominee would be immediately dragged into Kavanaugh’s wake, so it’d have to be an actually chaste kind of dude or a lady
Sep 25, 2018 • 5 tweets • 2 min read
I keep coming back to thinking about how we as a society put all this importance on pre/Post Millennial divides but it’s all to do with work and tech. People really do not stop to think that we come of age with The New Dems and Bush v Gore and it’s never been good or normal since
Like when speaking to us as political actors I find that frequently, even older people who know that I’m speaking in good faith will get frustrated that I have zero trust in the leaders they’ve always supported
And like, cool, but I’ve never seen them actually lead really.
Sep 25, 2018 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
In my DM there is a woman decades my senior telling me how I just don’t understand why Hillary might, in the late 90s when she was over fifty years old, have felt obligated to publicly shred the 22-year-old intern her husband got busted fucking
Your feminism sucks, lady. Grow.
Like I’m 36 and if I found out a partner of mine was out with women who were barely old enough to buy wine you bet I’m not only running, I’m warning ladies about that guy
I can’t imagine thinking to myself “best outcome we light this kid up and hope America hates her most”
Sep 25, 2018 • 8 tweets • 2 min read
Actually it’s late and I’m ill and I can’t sleep and let’s review 2016, from the perspective of a woman what didn’t automatically love Hillary Clinton
You see because she was a lady and this was groundbreaking and we all had uterii based contracts to therefore love her blindly
In 2016 there were only two acceptable political narratives for women: you were 1000% for Hillary or you loved the GOP
One was not allowed to express reservations or mixed feelings; anything less than unreserved excitement for Hillary was read as vicious critique/GOP support.
Sep 25, 2018 • 6 tweets • 2 min read
Hi hello welcome to the wilderness
I promise you that nobody with a consistent position on consent and power will be elevated to “public life” the way it’s typically meant
Like bring me the woman whose career wasn’t derailed when she wrote about the Lolita Express
That’s because there isn’t one. Because that plane flew high-ranking men from both parties, which would include both Clinton and Trump.
Sep 25, 2018 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
Every time we have some scandal that involves men or boys disrespecting women I see this rash of “I’ve never seen anything like this”
And how charmed are your lives though
Seriously if you’re in this year of our lord 2018 and we elected Trump and now you’re wondering how the date rapey frat boy has risen to power because wow people just don’t behave like that
Sep 24, 2018 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
So this week (it’s still only Monday mid afternoon) is what I was talking about like two years ago. There is no such thing as fact anymore and “news” is just a maelstrom of new and unimaginable things, so many of them that none of them really register because they’re so rapid
The atrocities are starting to pile up, and so are the instances of open lawlessness and contempt for political and social norms.
None of this is unprecedented but it’s never been this concentrated before.
We have become used to this new normal, have started to equivocate
Sep 24, 2018 • 5 tweets • 1 min read
In today’s episode of Men Are Totally Understanding This Whole Thing we have: men who totally didn’t schedule times to assault chicks! Or who scheduled times not to!
Well done, men, on your individual development of a very original and funny joke. Not at all weird! Promise!
The whole internet today is just dudes making jokes about this whole thing
And I get snark and all but hot damn
Write new material once the funny joke has hit either Vox or the Atlantic please.
Sep 24, 2018 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
My fuck-it has broken.
I just...y’all soak up all these women’s stories and let me know when you’re finished with them and whether anything has changed after all the public appetites have been sated
I think it was reading those men in those literary magazines talking about how awful it was for them to be infamous
And like, actually? It is. It’s hell. There are very few people in the world who know what it’s like to be declared an international villain. Earned or not.
Sep 23, 2018 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
You know, I don’t have a prayer of getting benefits and my income is largely dependent on whether people are feeling supportive or not in a month
But watching this Cracked thing, I’m finding it hard to regret my decision not to try to chase a staff job.
September is an incredibly slow month for crowdfunders, much of the income that we depend on kind of disappears around back-to-school time.
But also we’re not being systematically excluded from career opportunities or preyed upon by office hierarchies.
Sep 23, 2018 • 6 tweets • 1 min read
People really aren’t considering what fundamentalist religion does to women in a patriarchy.
It’s completely reasonable to wonder what’s up with white women but a lot of the rhetoric coming from women on the right is straight from doctrine.
Like, I don’t think people understand the degree to which women are taught that if men feel lust that’s because we tempted them somehow - and that “temptation” might just be that we smiled too widely.
Sep 23, 2018 • 11 tweets • 2 min read
Okay, nope. I have 45 minutes until this bread comes out of the oven. So let’s talk about “participation.”
Specifically, let’s talk about how we can start worldwide social movements and years later get told we should have participated more if we wanted a seat at the table
To clarify, I have been 36 for just over three weeks now, so I think I am technically no longer “young”
Just pretend this is me from a month ago scheduling these tweets
Sep 21, 2018 • 4 tweets • 1 min read
It seems really odd to me to say in public that you lived through the Clarence Thomas debacle and then the whole discussion of workplace harassment after that and then the Clinton decade and then #metoo and you only just now started to wonder but ok dude