in addition to supporting and listening and engaging politically, there is another thing my fellow dudes and I can do: look around our respective worlds and double-check for assault survivors whose stories we may have shrugged off what the GOP is doing is historically ugly in one sense, but in another sense it's life as usual: dudes shrugging and not involving themselves in women's pain. "I know him. I don't know her." "who knows what happened." "not my business"

lmao, just remembered "William Bigelow" was the Breitbart pseudonym of BEN SHAPIRO'S DAD in this 2012 article Shapiro erroneously identified a former Gitmo detainee as the perpetrator of a suicide bombing in Israel. once this was proven false, instead of correcting the slander they changed the byline to Shapiro's dad's pseudonym instead. goddamn brain geniuses

facts feelings etc, but I do feel bad for Ben here. he stumbled onto a lucrative grift as a teenager, but he’s a Valley kid... he wants to be a real boy again. but whenever he gets close he’s undone by things he’s done & said. tragic! when he watches Jordan Peterson and Dave Rubin bray at each other across a bar table, part of Ben thinks, “this is boring and it sucks. there’s a better life than this.” part of Ben wants out. he wants the malign things he’s done & said to not count. but, the thing is: they do

the coordinated push to rehabilitate Chris Hardwick is one of the scummiest things I've ever seen. let's just quickly review this is Dykstra's essay. definitely merits a trigger warning, but if you're okay w/ that I'd recommend reading it. it's disturbing and detailed and concrete and coherent. notably Dykstra takes pains to point out mistakes SHE made as well medium.com/@skydart/rose-…

the 4yo and I are going to Legoland today. we’re so fucking amped we might punch somebody we will be there for 30 hours. she packed five sets of clothes

dreading my own Star Wars opinions great news: it turns out my opinions about the new Star Wars movie are terrific