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Hey #Exvangelical Twitter and those who follow us - little reminder that most people who leave the church also get shunted to the outsides of their own families by a religious belief that real community only exists in Christ, and that’s excruciating. Be kind to each other today.
Even for those whose families have not deliberately shunned or ostracized them (which happens), there is a painful and obvious disconnect. At family gatherings you sit at a table full of people you desperately want to connect with and can’t think of a thing to say.
Can’t talk politics, because even if they aren’t Trump supporters you’ve never heard the word “Democrat“ come out of a Christian’s mouth without it sounding like they are spitting poison. Can’t feminism for the same reason.
Talking about your relationships is tricky if you are dating, because odds are your version of dating would be considered sinful by them.

Can’t even touch the prospect of sharing with him that you’re dating someone of a gender they think is the “wrong” one.
And if you’re in a loving, stable relationship but without a piece of paper that says you’re married, you’re still “living in sin,” so you can’t really bring that up either without it at least being uncomfortable.
Can’t discuss your spirituality, because they only accept one version of spirituality as valid, and whatever religious practices you have outside of theirs they will consider sinful at best and evil at worst.
Parenting? Be prepared to answer questions about why you don’t spank, or why you aren’t interested in teaching your child about God so they don’t go to hell. Better to just not bring it up.
And all the while you have no way of expressing to them that you might think they are all genuinely good people but that they believe truly bad things. Dangerous things. Painful things. Things that actively cause you harm.
That sentiment at least is almost shared between you, except for the part about them thinking you are a good person.

#BeingExvangelical means knowing that your entire family thinks you’re not a good person because according to the Bible nobody is truly good without God.
And at the end of the day, you know that if you share your feelings about how isolated, and lonely, and brokenhearted you are to be unable to share your life with your family, there’s always the chance they’ll feel hurt that you’re saying those things, which makes it all worse.
It’s almost enough to make some of us entertain the possibility of faking a return to Christianity just so we can have our families back.

Of course that’s not a real option., But some days I almost wish it was.

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Sep 12, 2018
A new church in Spokane and being “dedicated“ in October on the curb outside of our local Planned Parenthood for the purpose of “assaulting the gates of hell“ with worship and street preaching.
One of the primary organizers is Jake Eakin, convicted murderer with a long history of violence.

A glance at his Facebook page shows that he perpetuates the myth of the ”abortion holocaust” which was created out of outrage and a disregard for facts.
Obviously it’s important that people in the Spokane area know to avoid Planned Parenthood on October 24, for their emotional and possibly physical safety. It doesn’t take much Googling to find horrific accounts of protesters attacking/traumatizing people utilizing PP’s services.
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I’m not a tiny bit surprised by what this includes. I am quite a bit surprised by how blatant it has become.

This is the one of the first solid, self-driven nails in the coffin of Evangelical Christianity‘s irrelevance.
The #SocialJusticeStatement is a hard line in the sand for any progressive, justice-oriented Christian who has attempted to work with evangelicals in the past. They will no longer accept your work. They will no longer accept your driving beliefs.
In the #SocialJusticeStatement evangelicals have successfully severed any practical ties to mainstream Christianity and their version of this religion will die with them. I’m flabbergasted and, in a way, a little relieved.
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Just an interesting look into millennial financial nihilism and how the financial difficulties millennials face are making us a pretty fucking resillient generation.
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Aug 13, 2018
Let’s play Who said it: the God you were raised with, or your human abuser?
“Your life will be much better if you allow me full control over it.“
“I don’t like hurting you, but when you refuse to do what I say, corrective pain is the most loving path.“
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Buckle up, guys, gals, and non-binary pals, because we are about to talk Pensacola Christian College.

This is a political #Exvangelical #emptythepews thread with a heavy dose of #youdontknowevangelicals
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Actually, I’ll have to amend that, Ambassador Bible College was probably way more conservative than PCC, but even we considered them fringe.
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I think next week‘s @realreconstruct is going to have to be about fear. #Exvangelical folks are some of the most fearful today because we know what the religious right is capable of. We’ve heard them talk about it for decades. We know the kind of America they want.
Here’s the answer to the question: “What happens when the Christian right succeeds in overturning Roe v Wade?”

They have so much more they want to do.
Marriage equality will be next, followed by outlawing homosexual relationships all together. Re-segregation will be on the agenda at some point.

An early priority will be vilifying any religion that isn’t Christianity and giving Christianity as much political power as possible.
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