This is the problem with contemporary "feminists." It amounts to buyer's remorse. Young women CHOOSE to engage in behavior that ranges from personal conversations to sex. TBC: 1/?
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The young woman gets her feelings hurt and, with the guidance of older, more prominent women, they organize a social media campaign against the male "perp" (often adding texture to the story by turning him into a "perv").
The young woman gets her feelings hurt and, with the guidance of older, more prominent women, they organize a social media campaign against the male "perp" (often adding texture to the story by turning him into a "perv").
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The women, now organized and believing that they are doing some serious good for all women, make something like a phone tree, and shamelessly RECRUIT other women to "come out" with more stories about the unacceptable behavior. Some women want "in."
The women, now organized and believing that they are doing some serious good for all women, make something like a phone tree, and shamelessly RECRUIT other women to "come out" with more stories about the unacceptable behavior. Some women want "in."
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The additional "stories" are posted as essays online. The ACTUAL events are stretched and dramatically exaggerated until they are blatant LIES. A great deal of bullying and piling on happens. The snowballing stories start to appear in MSM.
The additional "stories" are posted as essays online. The ACTUAL events are stretched and dramatically exaggerated until they are blatant LIES. A great deal of bullying and piling on happens. The snowballing stories start to appear in MSM.
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Especially if the male "perv" has a worldwide reputation, even if that reputation is STELLAR, and he is widely known to be a feminist in thought, word, and deed. Even though he has promoted the work of HUNDREDS of women, resulting in gr8 careers.
Especially if the male "perv" has a worldwide reputation, even if that reputation is STELLAR, and he is widely known to be a feminist in thought, word, and deed. Even though he has promoted the work of HUNDREDS of women, resulting in gr8 careers.
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Let's say he works in #SciComm. Suppose he is not only a trained scientist, and teaches BI0 101 not because he needs the money, but because he wants to serve his community. And he loves his job so much that he works 16-20 hr days/7/365.
Let's say he works in #SciComm. Suppose he is not only a trained scientist, and teaches BI0 101 not because he needs the money, but because he wants to serve his community. And he loves his job so much that he works 16-20 hr days/7/365.
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This guy LOVES to talk science, journalism, history, politics... he doesn't care how you look, wjat you wear, about gender, (dis)ability, race, sexual orientation, religion, creed, age, basically he's curious, energetic, alive. By all accts, a MENSCH.
This guy LOVES to talk science, journalism, history, politics... he doesn't care how you look, wjat you wear, about gender, (dis)ability, race, sexual orientation, religion, creed, age, basically he's curious, energetic, alive. By all accts, a MENSCH.
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He's also new to the US. He's from a different culture, speaking in a different language, accustomed to different social norms, such as kissing friends on the cheek(s), 3x, when you meet and when you part. He's friendly, approachable, and respects others, always.
He's also new to the US. He's from a different culture, speaking in a different language, accustomed to different social norms, such as kissing friends on the cheek(s), 3x, when you meet and when you part. He's friendly, approachable, and respects others, always.
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He is also Jewish, although an atheist and not a fan of organized religion. He grew up under Eastern European "Communism." Although he is 6'1" and 125# and gentle, he is often pulled out of line at airports and questioned. His mother is one of last living Holocaust survivors.
He is also Jewish, although an atheist and not a fan of organized religion. He grew up under Eastern European "Communism." Although he is 6'1" and 125# and gentle, he is often pulled out of line at airports and questioned. His mother is one of last living Holocaust survivors.
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His family of 4 lived in 650 sq ft. There was no privacy. No leaving home for university. Children lived with their parents well into adulthood, after marriage, newlyweds continued to live with parents or in-laws. NO easy way to explore sexuality.
His family of 4 lived in 650 sq ft. There was no privacy. No leaving home for university. Children lived with their parents well into adulthood, after marriage, newlyweds continued to live with parents or in-laws. NO easy way to explore sexuality.
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The "essay" that Kathleen Raven (@inkkr) wrote about him, the cherry-picked quotes, if read carefully, are actually describing his awkward early sexual encounters. There is FAR more embarrassment in those words than machismo.
The "essay" that Kathleen Raven (@inkkr) wrote about him, the cherry-picked quotes, if read carefully, are actually describing his awkward early sexual encounters. There is FAR more embarrassment in those words than machismo.
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In fact, I challenge the entire #SciComm to find one male, one single person who has EVER heard him engage in ANY kind of "locker room" talk or has EVER heard him make one single derogatory comment about women, including any comments that objectify wmn.
In fact, I challenge the entire #SciComm to find one male, one single person who has EVER heard him engage in ANY kind of "locker room" talk or has EVER heard him make one single derogatory comment about women, including any comments that objectify wmn.
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I have been married to him for over 25 years, not including the time we dated and lived together. NEVER -- let me be clear -- not ONE SINGLE TIME has he ever called me a name. Not bitch, fat, ass, no fuck you, NO derogatory words. NOT ONE.
I have been married to him for over 25 years, not including the time we dated and lived together. NEVER -- let me be clear -- not ONE SINGLE TIME has he ever called me a name. Not bitch, fat, ass, no fuck you, NO derogatory words. NOT ONE.
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In the case of Monica Byrne, we are dealing with a very disturbed person. For 3 months, she emailed him almost daily asking him to meet her for coffee. For 3 months, he responded that it was unnecessary, that he would be happy to read her pitch via email.
In the case of Monica Byrne, we are dealing with a very disturbed person. For 3 months, she emailed him almost daily asking him to meet her for coffee. For 3 months, he responded that it was unnecessary, that he would be happy to read her pitch via email.
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Yet she persisted. So he gave in and met her for coffee. It was clear within 5 minutes that there was no viable work for her on his network. (She wanted to be paid for doing a guest post, for which the company never paid).
Yet she persisted. So he gave in and met her for coffee. It was clear within 5 minutes that there was no viable work for her on his network. (She wanted to be paid for doing a guest post, for which the company never paid).
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Monica's work, some will say her obsession, is sex. In her post, she said things that are not true (i.e, she said he described his experience with strip clubs, he has never set foot in a strip club). They talked about sex, no different from talking turtles w/trtl xpert.
Monica's work, some will say her obsession, is sex. In her post, she said things that are not true (i.e, she said he described his experience with strip clubs, he has never set foot in a strip club). They talked about sex, no different from talking turtles w/trtl xpert.
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He felt dirty after that conversation. He was disgusted and wanted no further contact. She reported him to his boss, crying sexual harassment. The nature of the "harassment?" An "awkward" conversation. The only claims of harassment by ANY WOMAN = "awkward conversation."
He felt dirty after that conversation. He was disgusted and wanted no further contact. She reported him to his boss, crying sexual harassment. The nature of the "harassment?" An "awkward" conversation. The only claims of harassment by ANY WOMAN = "awkward conversation."
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Monica, although there had been ZERO further contact between the two, reposted her year old post, but this time she named him. This is where miscommunication turned into a cluster fuck. Somehow people were led to believe that Bora took down her post .....
Monica, although there had been ZERO further contact between the two, reposted her year old post, but this time she named him. This is where miscommunication turned into a cluster fuck. Somehow people were led to believe that Bora took down her post .....
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her post was politically charged, but had nothing to do with the guy. In fact, he tweeted "I stand w/DNLee." It was actually his boss that removed her post (which was appropriate, b/c it had no business on a #Science blog).
her post was politically charged, but had nothing to do with the guy. In fact, he tweeted "I stand w/DNLee." It was actually his boss that removed her post (which was appropriate, b/c it had no business on a #Science blog).
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This is exhausting, so I'll do my best to edit. After B was falsely accused of removing DNLee's post, Monica made her year old complaint public. After that, some prominent women in #SciComm went to work. Melissa Bates (aka Isis the Scientist, goddess of domestic and lab...
This is exhausting, so I'll do my best to edit. After B was falsely accused of removing DNLee's post, Monica made her year old complaint public. After that, some prominent women in #SciComm went to work. Melissa Bates (aka Isis the Scientist, goddess of domestic and lab...
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Melissa (aka Isis) who had been blogging w/out much honesty (She claimed to be a PI w/"her" lab when in fact she was only a post-doc, and perhaps in early blogging, just a grad student. She seems to have Borderline PD. She lies. A lot.
Melissa (aka Isis) who had been blogging w/out much honesty (She claimed to be a PI w/"her" lab when in fact she was only a post-doc, and perhaps in early blogging, just a grad student. She seems to have Borderline PD. She lies. A lot.
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Melissa/Isis had it out for both B and me for a very long time. She asked for to join his network, and got a 1 word response: No. In spite of her years of nasty behavior, in spite of being one of a handful who knew her real identity, we didn't out her.
Melissa/Isis had it out for both B and me for a very long time. She asked for to join his network, and got a 1 word response: No. In spite of her years of nasty behavior, in spite of being one of a handful who knew her real identity, we didn't out her.
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Eventually someone did, with no help from us, and it was sort of delightful. Although all of her nasty, lying posts have mysteriously disappeared. In one of her posts, she called her research subjects her "patients" she quickly revised it after I called her out. Then,DENY.
Eventually someone did, with no help from us, and it was sort of delightful. Although all of her nasty, lying posts have mysteriously disappeared. In one of her posts, she called her research subjects her "patients" she quickly revised it after I called her out. Then,DENY.
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So, B though that KR was his "best friend." In fact, she had invited him to stay in her home the following week while he was traveling. Do women usually invite the man who is "sexually harassing" them to be their house guest? Doesn't seem right.
So, B though that KR was his "best friend." In fact, she had invited him to stay in her home the following week while he was traveling. Do women usually invite the man who is "sexually harassing" them to be their house guest? Doesn't seem right.
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The fact is that she was EQUALLY engaged in this "friendship." She contacted B several times a day, every day. I saw what was coming and I warned my husband, BAD IDEA, she doesn't want a friendship. This will blow up in your face. He thought I was jealous (NOT).
The fact is that she was EQUALLY engaged in this "friendship." She contacted B several times a day, every day. I saw what was coming and I warned my husband, BAD IDEA, she doesn't want a friendship. This will blow up in your face. He thought I was jealous (NOT).
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What she left out of her post was that she came on to B FIRST. She coyly looked up at him when they met and asked, "Are you attracted to me?" He wasn't expecting this, but I'd been watching smart, young, attractive women openly flirt w/him 4 YEARS.
What she left out of her post was that she came on to B FIRST. She coyly looked up at him when they met and asked, "Are you attracted to me?" He wasn't expecting this, but I'd been watching smart, young, attractive women openly flirt w/him 4 YEARS.
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At TED MED in DC, Kathleen and I met for coffee at Bora's urging. He wanted us to b friends AS COUPLES. KR had disclosed a great deal of her personal life to B, as good friends often do. K & I exchanged war stories, abt rape, sex abuse, and how great B is.
At TED MED in DC, Kathleen and I met for coffee at Bora's urging. He wanted us to b friends AS COUPLES. KR had disclosed a great deal of her personal life to B, as good friends often do. K & I exchanged war stories, abt rape, sex abuse, and how great B is.
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At the time, I just said it out loud: please don't destroy my family. She immediately regretted confiding in me, and we promised each other secrecy. At this point, I have no reason to keep that promise. She told me about an ex who wanted to rape her as kink. She did, .....
At the time, I just said it out loud: please don't destroy my family. She immediately regretted confiding in me, and we promised each other secrecy. At this point, I have no reason to keep that promise. She told me about an ex who wanted to rape her as kink. She did, .....
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And then she regretted it. That is TOTALLY understandable, horrific even, but although she gave unambiguous consent, and to my knowledge didn't say stop, she basically chose to engage, had buyer's remorse, and called it rape.
And then she regretted it. That is TOTALLY understandable, horrific even, but although she gave unambiguous consent, and to my knowledge didn't say stop, she basically chose to engage, had buyer's remorse, and called it rape.
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This is basically the same tactic used w/my husband: they equally entered into a friendship or emotional affair, maybe felt tempted but didn't get physical. And then she wrote a disgusting blog post, cherry-picked email quotes, and falsely accused B of SH.
This is basically the same tactic used w/my husband: they equally entered into a friendship or emotional affair, maybe felt tempted but didn't get physical. And then she wrote a disgusting blog post, cherry-picked email quotes, and falsely accused B of SH.
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This is SO tiresome! When Bora read her post, when he understood what he had been accused of, he fainted. Macho, right? The people who made false claims about my husband didn't stop there, but also dragged MY name through the mud (such sisterhood!). WTF did I do???
This is SO tiresome! When Bora read her post, when he understood what he had been accused of, he fainted. Macho, right? The people who made false claims about my husband didn't stop there, but also dragged MY name through the mud (such sisterhood!). WTF did I do???
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The most disgusting, disturbing thing in this nightmare is that these people, science writers (!!!), did not once, not ONE of the many dozen who wrote about this. It so happens that the one who got EVERYTHING wrong in her article was writing for a local paper. Lisa Sorg.
The most disgusting, disturbing thing in this nightmare is that these people, science writers (!!!), did not once, not ONE of the many dozen who wrote about this. It so happens that the one who got EVERYTHING wrong in her article was writing for a local paper. Lisa Sorg.
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B loses the job he loved, resigned from multiple board positions, and is rendered UNEMPLOYABLE. I'm on disability. Who was really hurt? Our children. Parents wouldn't allow their children to be with my daughter. My son, w/Ivy league chops, dropped out of HS.
B loses the job he loved, resigned from multiple board positions, and is rendered UNEMPLOYABLE. I'm on disability. Who was really hurt? Our children. Parents wouldn't allow their children to be with my daughter. My son, w/Ivy league chops, dropped out of HS.
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The kids saw it online before we could talk to them. My daughter failed a grade and still is badly scarred from the deep, self-inflicted cuts. Of course I was crushed. But this is not a stand-by-your-man situation. I knew the truth. I was in the room where it happened.
The kids saw it online before we could talk to them. My daughter failed a grade and still is badly scarred from the deep, self-inflicted cuts. Of course I was crushed. But this is not a stand-by-your-man situation. I knew the truth. I was in the room where it happened.
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I was abandoned by people whom I mistook for friends, people that I loved. We have been sentenced to a life of poverty. Our children have gone hungry. Why? For nothing. B NEVER groped, propositioned, touched, or suggested sex to ANY WOMAN.
I was abandoned by people whom I mistook for friends, people that I loved. We have been sentenced to a life of poverty. Our children have gone hungry. Why? For nothing. B NEVER groped, propositioned, touched, or suggested sex to ANY WOMAN.
Final comment. We have the emails and texts from Kathleen. We have the emails insisting a meeting from Monica. (Read the Amazon reviews of her novel) We could have proven that B is innocent. He chose not to do this. B/C he is DECENT. B/C we go high. Hang around. Karma sucks.
cc @CathyYoung63 @AndreaKuszewski @mdichristina @Gurdur @amyalkon @ivanoransky @sethmnookin @AbelPharmboy
#SciComm
Disclaimer: B has no idea I've spoken publicly (and he won't be happy). He is done w/lies and BS. Every word true, but left out lots. A big Fuck You 4 fail 2doubt
#SciComm
Disclaimer: B has no idea I've spoken publicly (and he won't be happy). He is done w/lies and BS. Every word true, but left out lots. A big Fuck You 4 fail 2doubt
Also @senseoffitness, please read entire thread. No hard feelings. Fond feelings, but had to do this for myself.
Her=Danielle Lee
*Did not FACT CHECK.
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