A challenge for men.

Engage your male friends, family, colleagues about the Ford/Kavanaugh hearings.

Ask what they thought. Remain neutral. Listen.

Do they sympathize w Kavanaugh? Express doubts of 35yo allegations? Wonder why it's relevant to his nomination?

Yes?

PUSH BACK.
It's important to push back because our culture is at stake.

It's not just about if the GOP will confirm a judge who will vote against Roe, LGBTQ rights, and healthcare.

All of that is massively important, but it's out of our hands.

We're at a pivotal moment in rape culture.
What's rape culture, you ask?

Blaming survivors. Putting their characters on trial. "Boys will be boys."

Raising our daughters to be agreeable and our sons to be aggressive.

The false belief that good men don't do bad things.

If you're a man, you benefit from all of this.
Have you been listening to pain expressed by women?

#MeToo #WhyIDidntReport and more.

Women are doing all the work pushing back against our culture.

Of being angry an abuser may be on SCOTUS.

That one man's career matters more than the damage he's done to women.
So here's the challenge, men.

Push back against the toxic beliefs of other men. Get in arguments.

Talk about the culture of white male privilege that protected Kavanaugh.

Talk about why survivors don't report.

Talk about holding perpetrators accountable any way we can.
We live in a society that refuses to punish men for bad behavior.

The justice system fails. Sexual violence is normalized.

What's the solution?

It needs to become categorically unacceptable in our culture.

It starts with us, men.

It starts with those difficult conversations.

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Sep 29, 2018
I've been thinking a lot about this insightful piece by @andizeisler.

It speaks about how the humiliation of women is a currency for male bonding, how jokes and pranks exist to reinforce male dominance.

Three experiences emerge in my mind.

washingtonpost.com/outlook/the-ca…
The upsetting thing is that at the time of 2 of the 3 experiences, I thought they were the greatest thing ever.

That I was being initiated into the world of real men.

I implicitly knew, as Zeisler writes, that "strong bonds can be made stronger at the expense of women."
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Vic was cool.
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I've thanked @Amy_Siskind in person and #onhere, but in light of her recent behavior, I've revisited some old tweets.

Her conversation on Apr 25 with @sarahkendzior has been cast in a stark new light.

The message that Amy was sending that night was a dangerous one.

Here's why.
The conversation went like this. Sarah talked about reality and a dark future. Amy continuously responded with unfailing hope.

The message: we all have the power to change the course of our nation every day.

She painted herself as an exhausted yet somehow tireless change agent.
Sarah pumped the brakes, speaking of ways the administration is taking away our power and keeping it from the already disenfranchised. She reminded us constantly that this predates Trump.

So why is Amy's message dangerous? Isn't it great to be hopeful and forward-looking?
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In 1938, she fled to Switzerland from Nazi-occupied Austria.

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Here she is on the right with a Viennese opera singer.
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Yes! That has always amazed me, too. The roast beef story is one of six moments in his tale of survival where the determination of life or death was decided in an instant.

At the work camp Szebnie, Monek was working as a gardener at the villa of one of the SS officers in charge.
Every day while the officer was away, his chef would bake fresh dog biscuits for his German Shepherd. She would leave them out, but the dog had no interest.

One day, Monek approached slowly. The dog wagged its tail. Monek was starving, and he took the biscuits and ate them.
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After a while, the chef grew wise and told the SS officer.

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This is my grandfather, Murray Goldfinger. The tattoo, 161108, was given to him at Birkenau.

He's 91 and his health is failing. He told his tale of survival for 65 years. Now, I've taken the responsibility.

One part of his story always gets a big reaction from students.
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He was tired, cold, and hungry. He saw something in the air, descending towards him.

It hit him in the chest, and he caught it.

A 2-lb piece of roast beef.
Monek was shocked. He looked around. Nobody had noticed, so he stuffed it under his shirt.

Over the next two days, he tore small pieces and ate them on the sly.

When I told the story to a group of eighth graders today, they all laughed.

"Was it a gift from Heaven?" I asked.
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Arthur is running unopposed for the @GOP nomination for Congress in Illinois's 3rd District.

He's predicted to lose against incumbent @RepLipinski, but let's not rest on our laurels. We know what happens when someone is predicted to lose then we don't go out and vote to be sure.
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